Listening: Many conflicts occur because partners do not listen to each other. When discussing an issue, listen to what the other person has to say, without thinking about what you want to say next. If you listen actively, the other person will feel heard and understood, and this can defuse any potential conflict.
Communication style: It is essential to communicate in a respectful and calm manner when discussing your issues with your partner. Avoid using aggressive or accusatory language, as this can lead to defensiveness and hostility. Instead, use “I” statements to express your feelings and focus on collaborative problem-solving.
Compromise: Conflicts are inevitable, and it is important to learn how to compromise. When discussing an issue, try to find a middle ground that works for both parties. Be willing to give a little in order to reach a mutually satisfactory solution.
Time-out: If the conversation becomes too heated, take a timeout. Sometimes, a break can help calm emotions and allow you to find a more productive way to resolve the dispute.
Seek help: Sometimes, conflicts can be too difficult to resolve without professional help. Marriage counselors or therapists are trained to help couples communicate better and find solutions to their problems. Do not hesitate to seek help if you need it.